Have a question about being a Big Brother/Sister?
Before you can start something, you probably need a few questions answered.
Big Brother/Sister FAQs
Who are the Big Brothers/Sisters in the program?
Our Big Brothers/Sisters come from diverse backgrounds just like our Littles. They are regular people, just like you. You don’t need any special degrees or job skills. You just have to want to positively impact a young person, live or work in Wake, Durham or Orange County and be at least 18 years old. Role models come in all shapes and sizes, and you could be a perfect fit!
When can I see my Little Brother/Sister?
As a Big Brother/Sister – Little Brother/Sister team, you decide together what you want to do and then your Little gets parent approval. We recommend that you keep a consistent schedule of outings and get together on a regular basis. Your local agency will provide more guidance on this. Until your relationship is established the outings will also depend on the comfort level of your Little’s parents, your Little and you.
How much money should I spend?
The quality of time invested with your Little is more important than the amount of money you spend. That’s why we don’t encourage spending a lot of money on your outings. The goal of the relationship is to help him see the world through a different lens so you can inspire him to become something he never thought possible. If you are going to spend money, we encourage you to seek out low-cost activities, especially in the beginning. Shoot hoops at a local park, play a game together, or share that pizza that you were going to have for lunch anyway. Big Brothers Big Sisters agencies offer donor-supported group activities that are a great way to meet other Bigs and Littles. As a Big Brother/Sister, you may also receive notices for free tickets to cultural and sports activities for you both to enjoy.
What are some good ideas for outings with my Little Brother/Sister?
Share an activity that gives you something in common to talk about. Buy a comic book to read together. Play a board game. Hit a bucket of golf balls at the local driving range. Take a ride in the car with the radio on and talk about the music you like. You want to select activities that give each of you a chance to learn more about one another. For children, playing can be learning. Most important: keep it simple and enjoy yourselves!
Can I bring my spouse, a friend or family member on outings?
In the beginning it’s important for you and your Little Brother to get to know each other. This can happen best on a one-to-one basis. However, over time it’s also valuable for your Little to get to know the people who are important to you. Just keep in mind that if you’re spending lots of time with others, your Little may begin to feel jealous or neglected. The main focus is the friendship you develop with your Little and the impact you have on his life.
Does BBBST accept LGBTQ volunteers?
Big Brothers Big Sisters of the Triangle values diversity, and no one person will be denied equal opportunity under applicable laws to participate in our program because of race, sexual orientation, gender identity, or gender expression. Preferences, fit, and similarity in interests are taken into consideration. As part of the matching process, we will disclose such information to the parent/guardian. If preferences are not aligned, BBBST will work to find a Little who we believe will be a good match for you.
What kind of support can I expect from Big Brothers Big Sisters once I get matched?
Once you are matched with your Little Brother/Sister, a Match Support Specialist from the agency will be in regular contact with you to provide assistance and give feedback. Any time you are unsure about what to do or how to handle a situation, you will have a Match Support Specialist there to help. They’ll help you with ideas for activities, guidance for handling possible difficult situations, and feedback on how you are making a difference.
Will I become a replacement parent?
No, Littles have a parent or guardian in their life already. What they need is a Big to spend quality, one-on-one time with them. Someone to have fun with, someone they can confide in, someone like you!
How do I sign-up to become a Big Brother/Sister?
Complete the complete the online application and fax to (919) 850-9774. Download Volunteer Application here.